First off, I feel like this is clearly an argument of semantics. The other person pointed out basically what I was already stating with maybe a couple things different.
I’m not saying gender is a choice. Gender is very real and not a choice. However, the way you express gender is. I do, wholeheartedly believe that gender is socially constructed but that it’s not a choice. We were all put into gender categories based upon our biology at birth, clearly not a choice, also how we feel about it isn’t a choice. What we choose to do with that, though, is.
Maybe the fuckery I was talking about was more to do with gender performance and it was what I was thinking about most when I made the post. I’m sorta Judith Butlering here when I say that I do think there are as many gender identities as there are people because every human expresses and feels gender differently. And that’s fine and good. I just find thinking of gender as socially constructed and something to play with is so empowering. Example, I just stopped shaving my arm pits.
I’m also not trying to say that there aren’t oppressions that go with gender roles. There CLEARLY are. Especially for those who are gender deviants.
Tldr; semantics, fuckery.
I think I completely agree with you, this is an argument purely on semantics, but I think even a little ambiguity is still kind of significant in a topic as important to today’s world as this one.
From what I’ve read in your posts I believe that the point you’re making is that the boundaries set by society on how you express your gender are flawed. I, personally, agree 100% with this sentiment. However, I don’t agree with these four words “gender is socially constructed.” The problem lies in the, most likely different, definitions we have of these terms.
First there is gender. To me when the word is used alone, it encompasses all aspects that make up gender (this includes identity). Meaning not only roles or performance, but who you’re attracted to.
Then there is social constructionism. To quote Paul A. Boghossian, “to say something is socially constructed is to say: This thing could not have existed had we not built it; and we need not have built it at all, at least not in its present form. Had we been a different kind of society, had we had different needs, values, or interests, we might well have built a different kind of thing, or built this one differently.”
Gender as an identity that you’re born with would not change if you were born in another culture, if you had different needs, values, or interests. Therefore, the two terms do not go together. It is not something we build, but something that exists on its own. Of course, this only works if you accept both premises for the definitions, which I could very well be wrong about..
(sorry for the long response, this is an interesting topic and I love procrastination)